Victoria Noe

Award-winning Author, Speaker, Activist



"It's Not Like They're Family"

Feb 01, 2011 by Victoria Noe
It wasn't the response you expected when you told someone your friend died.  You expected sympathy.  You expected the importance of your friendship to be respected.  You expected understanding.A shrug and "well, it's not like they're family" wasn't it.  You were shocked that they didn't "get it".Welcome to Friend Grief.  This blog will raise awareness of a powerful experience in all of our lives:  the death of a friend.  Millions of people each year suffer the pain of a friend's death, and many of them suffer more because those around them don't respect their grief.  I was surprised to find that there's a name for it:  "disenfranchised grief".  The term was coined by Dr. Kenneth Doka at the College of New Rochelle to...